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Learning to accept yourself: 3 proven exercises

How difficult is it for many: accepting yourself. Be your own friend. Love yourself - the way you are. With all shortcomings, quirks and quirks. Here is the Self acceptance essential for us, for relationships, for professional success. For our happiness anyway. Only those who accept and love themselves (with all their weaknesses) are also able to love and respect others, including their weaknesses. Only through peace with oneself can something like satisfaction and sovereignty arise. The good news is that self-love is not necessarily given to everyone. But (the healthy one) Self-acceptance can be learned

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➠ Content: This is what awaits you

Self-Acceptance Definition: Between selfishness and self-denial

Self acceptance or the Self acceptance is considered an important virtue. As defined in psychology, it is Ability to recognize yourself and then to accept and appreciate yourself for who you are.

Or in short: Those who are able to do so will be able to say of themselves ...

“I like myself and find myself good the way I am. I am good enough. "

Accordingly, in the environment of self-acceptance, too Synonyms and terms such as:

  • Self love
  • Self-esteem
  • Self acceptance
  • Self esteem
  • Self-giving
  • Self-confidence
  • Self-affirmation

Those who are capable of self-acceptance usually still have other positive properties and strengths. These include, for example:

Affected people know about them own imperfection, deal more kindly with themselves and more relaxed with criticism and admit more mistakes and freedoms.

Self acceptance is thus the Basis for change.

Conversely, their absence often leads to strong ones Self-doubt. Those affected then mainly see a deficiency - and feel that they are “deficient” in the literal sense of the word.

To compensate for this, there is often an addiction for confirmation and recognition or even - out of pure self-protection - chronic addiction arrogance.

In the extreme, however, a lack of self-acceptance can also result in Self-condemnation and self-hatred flow out.

However, one must distinguish self-acceptance or self-love from so-called Infatuationthat can range from selfishness to pathological narcissism.

That is not what it means. Those who are in love with themselves increase themselves to Benchmark for greatness. Those who take care of themselves, on the other hand, know about their own weaknesses, but still find themselves okay with them - without stopping to continue working on themselves.

It is important to recognize this subtle difference. Self-acceptance includes one Changing or improving your own personality not from. The motivation is just different.

The deficits are not made a condition here ("Only when I am better can I love myself and others can love me"). Rather, they are an incentive to make more of your potential, Motto: “The way I am, it's fine and right. But that doesn't mean that things couldn't get any better ... "

Self-acceptance test: are you your friend?

If you are currently unsure about your self-acceptance and self-acceptance: The following test cannot replace a medical-psychological diagnosis. However, it can give you the first signs that you may be working more on your self-acceptance.

To do this, please read the following 20 statements and remember (honestly!) how many of them apply to you ...

  • I don't like myself.
  • I know more weaknesses than strengths in myself.
  • I am dissatisfied with the way I look, my job, my life.
  • The others are all better than me.
  • I don't see why I should be loved.
  • I would have to change a lot about myself to like myself.
  • I often feel lonely and alone.
  • I need to feel like I am liked by others.
  • I try to please as many as possible.
  • If there is criticism, I usually take it personally.
  • I feel embarrassed when someone compliments me.
  • I often quarrel with myself.
  • I am my harshest critic.
  • If I make mistakes, it is really bad for me.
  • I am afraid that I am not good enough.
  • I am just too unimportant.
  • Hopefully nobody will notice that I can do nothing.
  • When I compare myself to others, I usually do worse.
  • I just can't praise myself.
  • I am often impatient and relentless with myself.

If you more than 5 times have agreed, that's a warning sign of low self-esteem and a lack of self-love. Perhaps the following will help you Exercises.

Learning and strengthening self-acceptance: These 3 exercises will help

Few people succeed in accepting themselves for who they are right away. The Expectations (from inside or outside) are simply too high, one's own mistakes are too serious or one's own dissatisfaction (with one's appearance, figure, ability and what has been achieved so far) is simply too great.

But it shouldn't block you. Anyone can learn to accept self-acceptance. All you have to do is invest some time and a good dose of honesty. In addition, we have selected three exercises for you to help you accept yourself better:

  1. Start with an inventory

    In order to learn to accept yourself, it makes sense to first deal with your own personality. Although we often think that we know ourselves best, the self-image and the external image are often far apart.

    So, at the beginning, reflect honestly on your strengths and weaknesses. And get feedback from friends and family as well. With this inventory you will get a reasonably objective picture of yourself and you may even find out that you have fewer deficits than assumed.

  2. Praise yourself

    Many people are its fiercest critics. Maybe not always in public. But secretly they go to court with themselves harder and more mercilessly than with a felon.

    Behind this is often the fear of arrogance, motto: Self-praise stinks. The point is not to distinguish yourself in front of others, but to admit to yourself: "I can do something, I am who, that was my achievement, my success!"

    This deserved (!) Self-praise is an important prerequisite for accepting yourself. If you don't praise yourself from time to time, why should someone else?

  3. Get to know YOUR expectations

    We often feel that we have to live up to all expectations. However, the only ones that go unnoticed are often your own. But they count above all.

    So write down what expectations you have of yourself: Overall, what do you want to achieve in life? What are your own goals? Why do you want that? If you do not plan to live the life of others, one of the main things you should do is measure yourself against your own expectations. It's your life - and that's great enough!

For self-acceptance, it also helps to write a “memorandum” in the literal sense to remind yourself that you can definitely achieve your goals. The Memorandum with motivational sayings You can also download it HERE as a PDF for free, print it out and hang it up where you see it again and again:

Self-acceptance opens numerous doors

The Importance of self acceptance cannot be emphasized strongly enough. It is an essential key to (inner) freedom, happiness and success and affects so many areas that we cannot list them all here.

Quite a few people focus on their inadequacies, on setbacks and mistakes. On the other hand, they hardly notice their successes or attach less importance to them than their failures. Fatal! Self-acceptance opens numerous doors and leads to a positive one Personality development. The consequences are, for example ...

You develop greater self-confidence.

Self-acceptance gives a whole new feeling of security, which is the basis of self-confident action and sovereign decisions. In short: you become more open and more confident about new things and changes.

You can move forward.

Knowing where you stand and accepting the status quo doesn't mean you have to leave it at that. Rather, it can be the starting point to tackle the things in which you would like to develop further.

You can handle criticism better.

Criticism is especially hurtful when it contradicts our self-image and depresses self-esteem. She then hits a sore point. However, those who take care of themselves know their weak points and can constructively accept the criticism instead of taking it personally.

You can be honest with yourself.

It is not always easy to be honest with yourself. We like to lie to ourselves to protect ourselves or to get a better picture of ourselves. This mostly happens unconsciously. But those who take care of themselves can stop talking about their own mistakes.

You have more fun in life.

Self-acceptance can positively influence the entire perception. Being at peace with yourself also makes it possible to see all things in life with different eyes - also other people, motto: "I am good, you are good". You will become both more grateful and happier.

You are happier.

Most people have high expectations of themselves. Often too high. To be satisfied with yourself, especially when things are not going so perfectly or as you imagined, puts a lot into perspective and gives things back the meaning they really deserve.

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23 September 2020Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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